In a generational period where delinquent behaviors and unpalatable moral vices have become the order of the day, the need to foster the parent-child relationship increases incredibly. It is often said that ‘charity begins at home”- a saying that further plays emphasis on the place and role of parents in shaping teenagers and young adults. Research has shown that children with developmental delays in parenting are more likely to have behavioral issues. The degree of parenting that a child receives is a strong contributor to their behavior, little wonder children that are results of broken homes and poor parenting often constitute nuisance in the society at large.
As parents, parental warmth and controlling if properly channeled are the two most important parental attributes that help to create positive effects. Positive and alluring emotional response and parental self-regulation are important parental factors in developing health children’s temperament.
One of the most viable means to strengthen parent-child relationship is a constant reminder to your children that you love them irrespective of their behaviors. Usually, children are super sensitive creatures, they tend to open up more often if they are assured that you love them regardless of their vices. This trust and assurance fosters communication between parents and children which eventually leads to a better relationship allowing parents to easily correct whatever vices being exhibited by the children. When a child realizes his or her parent reprimands him or her at the slightest chance, he or she confides more in friends who most often offer bad advices and solutions.
Interestingly, a parent-child relationship shares strong similarity with a husband-wife relationship. Spending quality time with children, playing games with them such as chess, cards, computer games foster strong parent-children relationship. Playing with children affords parents the enviable opportunity to be seen as good friends by their children. In the process of playing with children, they tend to divulge important details about their lives and their struggles making it easy for parents to assist and profer quality solutions for their children. As a reinforcement of your love for your children, establishing a special code name that is a positive or a secret code that you can use with each other goes a very long way. The concept behind the code name is to extract a child from a rather unpleasant situation without causing any form of undue embarrassment to the child. This further breeds the assurance, confidence and sense of feeling a child has when around his or her parent.
For children of lower age grade, development and maintenance of bedtime habits and rituals are highly imperative in bolstering excellent parent child relationship. Reading bedtime books or telling stories and folktales help create life long rituals. Creating bedtime rituals allows children feel safer and better loved. It is the most advised method of fostering parent-children relationship in cases when the parents are actively working parents that scarcely have spare time with their kids during the day.
Teenagers and young adults love people who hear them talk. They enjoy being listened to with respect. To enhance a strong parent-children relationship with teenagers, always be a safe and available person for your teenage child to talk to anytime and any day. Although, listening to them doesn’t necessarily mean you agree to all they say but an undivided and uninterrupted attention allows teenagers talk more openly thereby making them vulnerable to easily hear your thoughts and views. It also provides an easy access into their problem-solving strengths and restrictions.
Another important attribute of teenagers that must not be ignored by parents to enhance good parent- children relationship is their increasing need for privacy. Trying to know too much about their privacy at once draws them farther away from you. Parents must learn to respect the privacy of their children, know when and when not to ask sensitive questions. Also, parents should make it a point of importance to be suitable models for their children to emulate. Once your child sees you as inadequate in whatever way, he or she tends to look out and seek advise from people they presume to be models and sufficient to match their inquisitiveness.
Creating and enforcing core values at home also help children and teenagers make healthier choices knowing fully well the consequences for breaking them.