Living in Reality
By: Kristie Carpenter
The Blended Family Mom
Life is hard.
Stepmom life can be really hard. However, I think we need a reminder about life.
I pretty much believed that at a certain age, I would arrive at a place in life where things would be simpler. I would be wiser. Challenges would be easier. Yes, I have gained maturity, wisdom, a “bigger picture mentality,” but the insults, hardships, persecutions, and difficulties still seem to be a part of daily life.
Why? Haven’t I been a good wife, mom, and stepmom? I have been reading my Bible, praying, helping others, being patient and all the other things we women do to keep a home and marriage and motherhood intact.
Second Corinthians 12:9-10 gives us a shot of reality. Paul says, “I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
I think I just answered my own question. Paul reminds us that when we think we are doing all we can – that everything relies on our abilities and strength – that is where we miss the mark.
If I were to go through this life on my own, I would miss out on the power available to me through the cross of Christ. Christ endured the cross – was victorious over the cross – so that we could come to the Father. We come in brokenness, sin, disillusion, pride, and even ignorance.
We are human
That same wooden cross was the bridge for us to accept the price Christ paid for us – our salvation, redemption, and eternal life. The weakness of man brought through to victory in Christ. Not only these amazing gifts, but to know that in our everyday weaknesses, we have the power of Christ in us to let Him take our inabilities and fears and watch Him work through these parts of our lives.
We are weak. We are human. We are selfish. We figure that if we are kind and nice, patient and forgiving, everyone will accept us, work with us, love us and fight for us. That would be great -- except we live on an earth that is fallen. Therefore, we need to open our eyes to reality.
Living in reality means doing your best and knowing that others may not always do their best. Things will happen. Your stepkids will turn against you. Your husband will prioritize his bio kids over you. You may have friends desert you. Strangers will cheat you.
But, in all these things, there is a God who loves you and will work through the insults, hardships, persecutions, and difficulties. When you have Christ, your weaknesses can be used. You are not left alone and with nothing. You just have not seen fully what God is doing through your life.
Blessings in your Blending!
About Kristie Carpenter
Women’s author, speaker, and mentor Kristie Carpenter, aka The Blended Family Mom, has been a blended family/stepmom since 2004. Her blended family currently includes four children and four grandchildren!
Her books - “The Blended Family Mom,” and “Blended Mom Moments,” are both available on her website.