1. Instead of trying to meet others’ expectations, find the role that works for YOU. This is a unique family and you need to find your place in it.
2. Focus on your marriage first. The only reason you’re a stepmom is because you chose a partner who happens to have children. The key to stability in the family is a strong stepcouple. You are (half of) the foundation of the family, not an add-on.
3. Find your community, your tribe, your besties, your stepmama sisters… whatever name you want to use, the key is having the support of other women who KNOW what you are going through.